Even though the will to start a family is there, it is not certain that it is possible. Many people, longing for children, will never have children of their own due to medical or psychological reasons. For these people, there are other options. Adoption is one of the options to consider. Involuntary infertility is not always about medical issues, it can also be as simple as lack of a partner. You don´t seem to be able to find the right one to spend your life with, and your biological clock is ticking. Another reason can be that you have already been through a difficult pregnancy and the doctor may have suggested not to go through with another one, due to elevated risks for both mother and child. An adoption can make siblings possible.
Media and procedures
In the last decades adoption got a lot of attention in the media. This has much to do with the fact that many celebrities have chosen to adopt instead of having children of their own. Madonna, Sandra Bullock, Angelina Jolie and Charlize Theron are some of the most famous names that have made adoption their way of starting a family. Adoption is however, not only for the rich and beautiful, much more common than anybody can think. In 2015 almost 6 000 children were adopted from other countries by families in America and another 50 000 from foster care. Before you decide whether an adoption is what you want you need to figure out how to go about it. In America there are different ways for the procedure, either a foreign or a domestic adoption.
Foreign or domestic adoption
A foreign adoption is the most bureaucratic and the hardest to get approved. According to the State department in the USA, it takes between one and four years to finalize an adoption, depending on which country you are adopting from. Since it is so important that a child isn´t subject to abuse or other misdeeds there are a lot of criteria and evaluations to be fulfilled before an adoption can go through. The investigation contains a thorough vetting of the parents, both financial and legal history as well as a check of the home to ensure a good environment for the child. Of course, a foreign adoption is more expensive than a domestic. A foreign adoption can cost between 15 000 and 30 000 dollars depending on country and adoptive agency. It is easy to think that a domestic adoption would be easier, and mostly it is but not as much as you would think. A domestic adoption still demands all the same procedures when it comes to vetting the parents and they still need to go through the whole procedure with the agency. The standards are still as important, and the many laws and rules of the adoptive agencies are very strict. In media a wrongful picture is often painted where parents meet a lonely child and brings him or her home right away. That is not the reality. The situation can be very complex depending on the state of the child. A domestic adoption is not cheap, it can, many times, be as costly as a foreign one.
An independent adoption is the easiest way to go. There are no middle hands, the contact is between the adoptive parents and the biological mother. Of course, there are laws to regulate this as well. There has to be an attorney overlooking the whole procedure. In some states in America, independent adoptions are illegal. You can search the internet for more information on the procedure in each country or state since there are many differences.
Good luck to everybody in the position to make an adoption reality, it is wonderful when parents and children can both get what they want and need in life!